A Message to Wives

We understand that many wives feel hesitation when their husbands consider participating in this ritual. That concern is natural—I’ve experienced it in my own family. My wife wasn’t thrilled when I first turned to the Sacrament, and I know the uncertainty it can bring. My hope here is to address those concerns and help ease them.

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What You May Not See

Often, you may not realize the depth of your husband’s struggles. Veterans tend to hide their pain, even from the people closest to them. It’s part of who we are—to stay strong for our families and downplay what we carry inside. Many wives later tell us they were shocked to learn how much their husband had been suffering before the ritual. The beauty of this process is that afterward, he will be able to talk about it with you in ways he couldn’t before.

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Reconnecting With Emotions

One of the greatest gifts of psilocybin is its ability to reconnect us with feelings we’ve shut off. Many of us turned those emotions off during war and never learned how to turn them back on. The Sacrament helps bring them to the surface again—love, empathy, and connection. Speaking personally, I feel more bonded to my wife and children now than I ever thought possible. Our relationship is stronger, I understand her perspective better, and I love her more deeply. That would never have happened without spiritual healing.

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The Cost of Carrying Burdens Alone

My ex-wife once told me that I came back darker after every deployment. She was right. Service adds invisible baggage that most people can’t understand. For me, within three months of retiring from the Army, I was also facing divorce—an outcome far too common among Veterans. I’ve seen brothers in arms spiral after retirement, some to the point of losing their lives. The toll is heavy, whether or not your husband ever says the words out loud.

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What the Ritual Can Do

Whether he admits to suicidal thoughts or not, your husband is carrying deep burdens. The ritual use of psilocybin helps lift that weight. Time and again, spouses have told us the same thing: the man who returns from this experience is closer to the man they married—sometimes as far back as 10 deployments ago.

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If you entrust him to this process for a weekend, my commitment is to send him home not only lighter, but also more open, more connected, and more capable of loving you as he once did. That is the number one thing we hear from wives, and it’s the reason we do this work.